Many love to hate her. And many do love her. But one thing we can all agree on is Kim Kardashian sets a high standard for a healthy and positive body image, which is why shewill always be my body-positive role model.
She embraces the ethnicity she was born into and some of the dark features she was born with as an Armenian-American, and she sets the standards for her youngdaughter, North.
Not only, though, is she setting an example for her daughter, shes setting an example forthe entire world of women who are trying to build their self-esteem.
Kim K is the first to say we should look at body image in a positive and healthy way, and hereshow shes changing the game.
1. Kim made ethnic look cool.
Armenians have the stereotypical big noses and hairy eyebrows. But if it wasnt for Kim Kardashian, thick eyebrows wouldnt havebecome such a big beauty trend.
Long dark brown hair and dark brown eyes make her appear more ethnic, but shes clearly proudof her cultured heritage and roots.
2. Kim is the new Marilyn Monroe.
Armenian women have curves, and were proud of it. Kim Kardashian doesnt try to hide these curves; sheembraces her voluptuousness and makes curvy look sexy. Its about time curvy women started appreciating the waythey were born and understand it is beautiful.
3. Kim works hard for her body.
You can see it in all of her snaps, websiteposts andon Instagram. She works day in and day out, even when shes traveling. Her post-baby bodylooks phenomenal because she works harder than most people to get the body she wants. Shes a go-getter!
It probably helps to have a private trainer, but she clearly focuses on her diet as well.
Kim K is not only confident in her body but makes women around the world feel comfortable in their shoes, too.
4. Kim turned her positive self-image into a business.
Not just one ofTIME magazines 100 most influential people or Vogues cover stars, she is a walking legend whohas turned the definition of beauty upside down.
Kim K is a blessing to the human race. Every day there are teenagers who look at magazines for role models and are flooded with images of the typical blonde-haired, blue-eyed, thin models who look as if they are starving.
Then you have this Armenian princess olive colored, long hair, dark eyes, thick eyebrows and curvy hips to change the game. Im not tryingto put down any of the above who are born with blonde hair or blue eyes, but the truth is, in the decades since Marilyn Monroe, weveshifted away from the image of stick-thinmodels to curvy, voluptuous, rounded women.
Kim K is proud of who she is, where she came from and what she has been blessed with (that ass!).
5. Kim makes it her responsibility as a mother to teach her daughter how to have a positive body image.
Kim K understands when North grows up, she will look to her mother for advice. Through this understanding, Kim knows it is her responsibility to teach her daughter tohave high self-esteem and a healthy body image.
I consider Kim a legend in this regard. Whether you are a fan or not, I think we can all agree her media presence and body shape have helpedrevolutionizethe fashion industry and helped impactadolescents in a healthy way.
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Cristiano Ronaldo ended his five-year relationship with the stunning Irina Shayk after she allegedly did not show up to his mother’s 50th birthday party.
Like a G!
And while letting go of a woman that gorgeous might be an impossible decision for any other man to make, Cristiano keeps it moving and is reportedly already dating Real Madrid TV presenterLucia Villalon.
According to YahooEurosport UK, rumors have been swirling between the two since they were spotted together flying back from the Portuguese star’s Ballon d’Or win.
Let’s be real with ourselves, Cristiano Ronaldo is a champion, and champions do what they were born to do!
Ifyou think there’s a chance of Cristiano rekindling his love with Irina any time soon, he sounded pretty serious about the breakup. In an unofficial statement, he said,
After dating for five years, my relationship with Irina Shayk has come to an end We believed it would be best for both of us to take this step now. I wish Irina the greatest happiness.
A sad thing indeed. Let’s peep more of Lucia below!
Lucia is a 26-year-old TV presenter for Real Madrid Television, the club Cristiano is on.
However, she used to work for TVE and Antena 3.
She has over 17,000 followers on Twitter, and yes, she goes to every game.
Lucia studied in Spain and has a taste for the finer things in life.
At the same time, she is a hard worker and willing to help the team out in any way possible.
The abs don’t lie; she’s all about her fitness.
Once she’s on camera, you can see why she had Cristiano calling.
Ronaldo doesn’t have to worry about this jabroni either.
As a betch, you’ve probs been fighting with your mom since she woke you from your nap in her womb. I mean, think back to middle school. With all the shit you pulled, it’s amazing that she did not throw your 13 year old ass out of the house for being such a sassy bitch. Even so, all those teenage years helped us perfect the mother-daughter fighting cycle. Here are the four stages of fighting with your mom.
1. The set off
Fights with our moms rarely start over anything important.
Example 1: Your mom forgot/didn’t do something she was supposed to because she’s old as fuck/doesn’t give a shit.
You: Why did you buy Coke Zero? I asked you to buy Diet Coke.
Mom: Oh, I’m sorry. I forgot.
You: God, mom, you always do this!!
Example 2: Your mom, knowing the sneaky bitch that you are tries calling you out onyour shit. The best way to deal with this is to blame someone else or turn it around on her without answering the question.
Mom: I was looking at the credit card billandwondering who spent $500 at Bliss Spa this month.
You: Why don’t you fucking ask Jamie! You always blame me first! Now I’m going to have to talk to my therapist about how your blatant favoritism is ruining my life and you’re going to have to foot the bill!
Example 3: Your mom attempts to make you get your shit together.
In the rare case a fight does start over something important, it will be because your mom asked any variation of the what are you doing with your life? question. I don’t know mom, what are you doing with yours!? In her defense, betches can be so afraid of this question that we often assume she’s asking it even when she’s, like, not.
Mom: Hi, Honey, what are your plans for this afternoon?
You: Leave me alone. Why do you always put so much pressure on me!? GOD!
2. Rehashing things from the past
The rehashing stage almost always starts with the phrase This is so typical! or you always do this!! Then it’s on. Prepare to be reminded of every fight you two have had since like, 2nd grade. The time you got caught sneaking out in high school, the time your mom forgot to pick you up from dance class, and the drinking ticket you got freshman year are all topics that will be brought up during this stage of the mother-daughter fight. It’s no longer on my record, Mom! Let it go!! The best way to annoy your mom during this phase of the fight is to try and make her feel like she’s the maniac while putting a large emphasis on the end of yourwords. Mom you need to relaxxxxxxx you’re driving everyone around you insaneeeee.
Note: The more emphasis you place on the end of the word chilllllllllllll the more likely your mom will be to look into how to get you out of your dad’s will.
You storm off to your room, to your car, to the mall, wherever. Just make sure you make a dramatic exit. Once by yourself, and maybe after you’ve popped a Xanax, you’ll realize how much of a raging bitch you were. Time to suck it up and apologize, betch. If the fight was really bad, you can always just blame it on your PMS. Note that if you’re going to apologize it’s important to overdo it. Make sure to tell your mom how much you love her and appreciate everything she does for you. Be sure to top it all off with a mention that she looks like, soooo thin lately. There’s no point in apologizing for no fucking reason. This will ensure you get a bonding trip to Saks and a mani/pedi. The make up shopping spree is to fights with your mom what makeup sex is to fights with your boyfriend.
4. Ending it
Unless you’re one of those psychos who fights with their mom for like years, mother-daughter fights usually only last a couple of hours. The beautiful thing is, while a bestie might hold a grudge if you, like, call her a psycho bitch, your mom will ultimately forgive you since she loves you. Plus youliterally came out of her so she’s eventually going to forget that you totalled her car.She’s also spent way too much time raising you to stop talking to you now. Once the sorrys are said, everything is overthat is, until the next time she has the nerve toschedule brunch with your grandma on a Sunday at 11 amor like, ask you to get a job. Sure your mom isn’t a regular mom she’s a cool mom but that doesn’t mean you can’t occasionally tell her to GTFO of your room, no matter how much time and money she’s spent decorating it.
I read somewhere that to get over a breakup, it takes about half the duration of time your relationship lasted.
My most recent relationship ended after a little over a year, so for me, I am quickly approaching that mark. But our unofficial relationship dates back years. So do I get more time?
How long does it actually take to get over someone?
According to Drake, it takes forever because ~you never really stop loving someone~. You either never did, or always will.
Am I over my relationship? Have I TRULY moved on? I cant really answer that.
But it has been half a year since Ive been in it, and Id like to reflect on some of the changes that have happened in this time.
1. Overall Mood
I missed this Marissa, said an old college friend of mine when she came to visit me during my breakup. I thought, Um what does that even mean? Ive always been this Marissa.
Or had I?
Relationships change you. Sometimes for the better, but unfortunately, sometimes for the worse.
My ex is not a horrible human who abused me or tried to make me something I was not. I dont wish bad upon him because, well, he is someone I still love very much.
When I look back on our relationship, however, I realize he changed me in ways that werent so good for me.
I am a pretty outgoing, happy person overall, but I never felt good enough for my boyfriend. He often made me doubt myself, instead of lifting me up.
Spoiler alert: this is the complete opposite of what a boyfriend should be doing.
I constantly questioned his intentions, but this was beyond trust issues. What I mean by this is I was always asking, Does he really love me? Why hasnt he texted me today? Am I good enough for him?
I had been in a previous relationship where I had no doubt of my partners feelings because we were very open with each other.
My most recent boyfriend, however, never had been in a serious relationship. This hurt us a lot.
I felt like I couldnt talk to him about how I was feeling, literally ever. I wasnt myself. I was always sad, and always trying to hide that sadness. I knew it, and so did those closest to me.
When we broke up, a slight weight was lifted off my shoulders.
I missed him; I was sad; I cried (a lot). I still feel these things at times, but guess what? I am good enough.
I dont doubt myself or feel obligated to prove my worth to anyone. Im always just doin me (love you, Drizzy).
And I place the blame on me (partially) for letting myself be with a person who made me feel anything less than amazing, for not speaking up every time I should of and for letting someone elses actions hindermy own.
I hate to say the word dumped because I knew the end of the relationship was coming. He just had the guts to pull the trigger first.
However, getting dumped actually BOOSTED my confidence. I never wanted to admit it, but my boyfriend essentially made me more self-conscious than beautiful and loved.
I cant remember the nicest thing he ever said to me. Quite frankly, he was a man of few kind words. I received the good morning, beautiful text messages whenever he knew he fuckedup.
One night around the holidays, I attended a work event of his. Its important to note that I am the polar opposite of a girly girl. And I may not be a size 0, Instagram model, trendy chick, but I think of myself as attractive (not to mention, awesome AF) young woman.
I had received one of those in-store Sephora makeovers as a gift for Christmas. I thought this was a great way to get someone else to do the work, and my guy would be able to show me off to all his co-workers.
When he saw me that night, the first thing he blurted out was WHOA thats a bit much. Bruh
In all, my ex just wasnt good at making me feel good.
I dont know ifit was his lack of finding the right words and the right moment, or if he just really didnt think much of me,but I dont care anymore.
When I became single, I started going on dates, flirting at bars and feeling like my old, cool, college self (just way less promiscuous and way more mature, thankfully).
And even though I wasnt genuinely interested in literally any of these new guys, the newfound attention helped me get back on my horse and remember that Im a bomb ass catch.
3. My Body And Fitness Commitment
No, I didnt drop 20 poundsto spite my ex and show him what hes missing.
Yes, there was a short period of time where I had no appetite because of the horrible sadness and grief, and I dropped weight quickly. But that also ended quickly because, well, food is amazing and pizza exists.
However, binge eating while watching Netflix on a Friday night in just isnt as much fun (or socially acceptable, unfortunately) to do alone.
So with a decrease in midnight snacking and eating out, mixed with an increase in cooking for myself and actually sleeping enough at night, I did loose a little bit of weight.
Instead of skipping the gym to hang with bae, I had much more free time to focus on me.I put working out back on top of my list of daily priorities.
Currently, Im training for a half marathon. I run at least 5 miles a day.
This all definitely aided my newfound self-confidence, except the best part is that it isnt to get him back. Its because I look AND feel better.
When youre in a relationship, its very easy to loose sight of your priorities.
You want to spend all of your time with this person. You forget there are other people whocare about you, and whom you care about, as well.
I like to think I did a pretty decent job at balancing my friends and my boyfriend, but when it came down to it, I was guilty of more often than not picking him over them. It was comfortable, safe and easy to spend all of my time with him.
Lucky for me, I hadnt damaged my friendshipstoo much while in my relationship. When the relationship ended, I always wanted to be doing something to distract myself.
I wanted to go out more, meet new people and just have fun. I was always making plans with friends, texting them more and overall, I was being a better friend.
It was only after becoming single again that my eyes were opened to how truly damaging a significant other can be to friendships if you arent careful.
I was thankful that my friends were there for me because, when it comes down to it, hoes before bros. Always.
5. My Strength
I forgot to mention the part where my boyfriend left me while we were living in a city four hours away from my hometown, closest friends and family.
I had no idea how I was going to survive in that place alone. I could count on one hand how many people I felt like I could rely on where I lived. I had no choice but to get my shit together.
I didnt have time to feel sorry for myself. I didnt let my world crumble just because he was no longer in it.
The quote you never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have is a bit dramatic for my situation, but it applies.
Because when the time came to be strong, it really wasnt so hard.
It might havehelped that while we were together, I was already conditioned into barely being able to rely on him emotionally.
Yeah, I was lonely at times. I suffered many anxiety and panic attacks, butI handled it. I put my big girl pants on, and I survived.
6. My expectations for future relationships
People come into your life as a lesson or a blessin. And I have definitely learned my lesson.
Settling is actually bullshit.
Why ever settle for someone average, when you could be getting extraordinary?
I really dont know what I was thinking. I would never get back into a relationship like the one I was in under those circumstances.
So, why did I hold onto a person who was doing me more harm than good for so long? Probably (definitely) because he was truly my best friend.
In fact, we were best friends for years before we dated. But I will make new friends, and I will meet new lovers.
Maybe we wont have the same stupid sense of humor or taste in music. Maybe no one will ever be as compatible for me as my ex once was. But at least they wont make me feel belittled.
Maybe they will actually be proud to call me theirs; maybe theyll surprise me with flowers here and there and be a loving romantic. Who knows, but Im hoping I find out soon.
I guess themoral of my story is that whether or not you have moved on from a past relationship, and despite how much time has passed, I bet you something good has come from this time you have been apart.
You just need to figure out what that is, and use it.
Remind her God has called her to a lasting love, not pushed her into a momentary fling. Guard her heart, protect her purity and love her so selflessly that youd end the relationshipeven knowing it would hurt herif you knew it was best for her.
By Lairs Johnston
To the man who is currently dating my future wife: Holding hands is one thing, kissing my wife is another.
Ill be honest, social norms are lost on me. I spent my teenage years searching for physical relationships before emotional ones. Needless to say, my dating world is pretty messed up.
Truth is, recently I met a girl that I liked, and we clicked really well. You could say we were really close to being Nicholas Sparks next inspiration for The Notebook 2: Facebook Official. But for some reason I kept feeling God saying, Not yet.
Now to be honest, God has confused me a lot in my life, but the one thing thats been consistent is His ability to be right. So I let her go. The weird thing isshe moved on.
Now Ill start by saying I dont know if shes the one for me or whatever, but its weird watching a girl Im interested in date someone else. Then I started to think, What if she and I do end up getting married. How do I want her relationship with this new guy to go?
Ill be honest; this is the first time Ive looked at a woman and thought big picture. I was the guy who thought sex and relationships were two different thingsthat is, until now. With this in mind, Ive thought of a few things I really hope she remembersand MORE IMPORTANTLY, I rememberthe next time Im out on that date with The Little Mermaids Kiss the Girl stuck in my head. I now ask myself these questions that I think could be helpful for all the single ladies.
1. Wheres his bar?
What attracts us to a person? What is it we look for? Congratulations, he bought you flowers? What we look for (especially in the beginning) should have less to do with how we get treated and more to do with how we treat those we dont get along with. Posting a picture on Facebook of the flowers he bought you isnt nearly as romantic as posting, He had to cancel because the shelter where he volunteers flooded, and now he has to help clean it up. Any dude will spoil a girl, especially in the beginning, but ladies should pay attention to how the guy treats those who have nothing to offer him. THATS when you start falling in love or moving on.
2. What does he find attractive?
Cool. You two like the same band. Give each other a high-five and move on with life. Oh, whats that you say? You both have a heart to serve high school-age kids, especially homeless teens? And you want to foster teens?!?!?! Now THAT should be a Nicholas Sparks novel, but unfortunately the world has turned love into finding what fits your lifestyle more than who youre serving.
Pay attention to your dates passions. If your man is already selflessly serving others, how do you think hes going to treat you? Any dude with a minimum-wage job can buy your meal; only a dude willing to lay down his life for a stranger will be able to fight for a healthy marriage.
3. Dat booty doe
Heres one thats really hit me: What do I call beautiful? Ladies, I hate to break it to you, but your body is going to get MESSED UP by life. And dudes?!?! That six-pack you think you see in the mirror is really just the result of you holding your breath for 30 seconds and becoming a shading master with a Sharpie. OUR BODIES WERENT CREATED TO IMPRESS THE WORLD.
Because sexual abuse and perversion were such a big part of my life, for a long time it was important that whoever I dated was basically Mother Teresa meets Jennifer Aniston in the third season of Friends. It was ridiculous. The only real thing I have to offer is Jesus.
Let me say that again: THE MOST ATTRACTIVE THING ABOUT ME IS JESUS.
If a girl wants me because I got a booty that just wont quit, well, as soon as my booty decides to quit and starts sagging toward my calves, she wont be attracted to me anymore. Or if Im totally into her flat stomach, as soon as she gives birth to our first kid, Im going to get all livid that shes not hitting that CrossFit P90X creatine diet that gets her back to the place where I DEEM HER GOOD ENOUGH.
SOto the man currently dating my future wife: I hope youre quick to remind her of her beauty and worth but NEVER leave her feeling like her looks are all she has to offer. I hope you NEVER set a standard thats even hard for me, her future husband, to meet. I hope you NEVER change your personality trying to be who she wants, and by doing so, waste more time that I could be spending with her. Last but not least, please, PLEASE dont ever replace God in her life. Push her to EXPECT a decent man, not idolize one. Remind her God has CALLED HER TO A LASTING LOVE, not pushed her into a momentary fling. Guard her heart, protect her purity and love her so selflessly that youd end the relationshipeven knowing it would hurt herif you knew it was best for her.
The Woz is a fan of food, and his extensive roster of mayorships at some of America’s finest chain eateries is a testament to his commitment. In addition to a freshly-minted Cinnabon Mayorship, the Apple genius holds the top spot at a Baskin-Robbins, a Subway, The Hard Rock Cafe at Lake Tahoe, and an IHOP. He even offers the occasional tip. At one of his other mayoral haunts, the Outback Steakhouse, he suggests users scrape breading off bloomin’ onion for low carb diets.
2. Nick Bilton, The Friend Check-In
Tech columnist, Nick Bilton loves to check in at the homes of his various friends. In addition to popping in on them, Bilton diligently checks in to his favorite bars, and keeps a well curated list of the best Bloody Marys in NYC on his saved lists. But it’s not all fun and games for Bilton. Believe it or not, he’s actually the mayor of the rainforest in Ecuador. Yes, the entire Ecuadorian rainforest. Nick Bilton: environmentalist, good friend, and smart drinker.
3. Mario Batali, Coastal Chef
Everyone’s favorite Crocs-clad Italian chef is one of the biggest personalities on Foursquare. Sure, his check-ins include some amazing quality restaurants, but ten out of his fourteen mayorships actually center on the coastal town of Northport, Mich. The chef, who goes there to get some rest and relaxation, has checked in at local spots like the farmers’ market. Cute, right?
4. Fred Wilson, The Upper Crust
Is anyone shocked that the fanciest check-ins come from one of the biggest names in venture capitalism? Union Square Ventures principal Fred Wilson is a Foursquare super user. A portion of his mayorships come from the East Hampton hamlet Amagansett, which has been home to stars such as Paul McCartney and Sarah Jessica Parker. Among Wilson’s notable NYC hotspots is Maison Martin Margiela, a high-end clothier in the wealthy Greenwich neighborhood. Want to live like a VC? Check out his curated lists, which focus on some fabulous spots in Paris, Amsterdam, and Copenhagen.
5. Michael Bloomberg, Mayor of Mayors
The keeper of New York City has a critical top spot. Yes, Bloomberg’s only mayorship is at New York City Hall, where he has completed a whopping forty six check-ins in the last sixty days. Otherwise, the mayor checks in to places where he performs his governmental duties, such as a ribbon cutting or a visit to the Twitter office, where he advised, Make sure you have an @twitter account before stopping by here. Good idea, Bloomberg!
6. Dave Kerpen, New York Groover
Brooklyn-born Kerpen, who is the CEO and co-founder of Likeable Media, holds the most mayorships on this list at an astounding twenty five. He also holds the overwhelming majority of his top spots on New York soil. That’s because Kerpen often checks in at his childhood home, his current residence, and his Hamptons vacation spot. He’s also a frequent visitor to the Mets home stadium, Citi Field. Although, we’re sad to report that he’s not the mayor there. But don’t worry about him. We’re sure he can seek consolation at Mr. Met’s Dugout Shop near the field’s Flushing location, where he is currently mayor.
7. Brian Solis, The Globetrotter
Industry analyst Solis is mayor of some of the trendiest locales in Silicon Valley in addition to his company headquarters at the Altimeter Group. But his drool-worthy mayorships also cross into international waters. His mayoral list sports locations from three different countries, including a fabulous chartered yacht in the south of France.
8. Robert Scoble, Half Moon Homebody
Tech luminary Scoble is an evangelist and a Foursquare super user with more than 2,500 check-ins. Still, his mayorships indicate that his main base of operations is in his hometown of Half Moon Bay, where he’s checked in at the Ritz Carlton at least eight times in the last sixty days. It’s a place where he does a lot of business with Silicon Valley greats who are interested in coming to meet him.
9. Dennis Crowley, The Non-Mayor
The co-founder of Foursquare maintains an impressive record. He sports 133 different badges on his profile and is followed by more than 9,000 users. He’s divulged 201 tips and carefully advised seventeen lists, but there’s something drastically missing from his profile: a mayorship. Yes, the co-founder of Foursquare doesn’t have a single mayorship to his name. Zero. None. Instead, Crowley opts for diversity rather than specialization, a technique that has earned him some of the rarest badges the company offers.